Over-50 Daters: 5 Things You Should Never Do When You’re Online Dating

Over-50 dating is…well, it’s different from dating when we were younger and met someone in person. IRL, in real life, is the acronym used nowadays. I’m offering up a few pointers to new daters and the date-weary. Online dating is not for the tender, but then neither is getting older. 1. Never take online dating personally and never give up looking The point is that if you take online dating personally, you’ll give up too…

5 Don’ts for Over-50 Online Daters and 4 Great Dos

Don't Get Overwhelmed by the Strangeness of it All  If you’re new to dating, you can get overwhelmed with anxiety about details, like what to wear, or fear that you won’t recognize your date in a crowded bar. "She'll see I'm fifteen pounds overweight," said a friend going on his first meet in two years. Other friends worry their date won't resemble his profile photo. "I lied about my height, but only by an inch,"…

Hanging Out With Your Male Man: Friends With Testosterone

Are Male Friends Even Possible? We are a group of seven women of a certain age, sitting around the dinner table (yes, there is wine), talking about relationships. Since we don’t know one another that well, there are lots of questions. “What about men friends,” I ask. “It’s harder at our age, but do you have male pals?” Out of the seven, two have male acquaintances, but only one has a male friend. “I see…

Quick! What Do You Notice First?

What do you notice in the first few seconds on a first meet? His comb over? Her weight? This unscientific survey is brought to you courtesy of my friends (names changed) and acquaintances, all middle ageish and dating online. They were all asked the same question and yes, the sex card was played. Or at least mentioned. What Women Notice in the First 5 Minutes We pick up on certain things. Such as you asking…

It’s Just a Freakin’ Meet

Yes, I’m using the word freakin’ in the headline. Not to come off flip. I’m not saying that dating for the first time in ten or twenty years is like popping a few blueberries into your morning oatmeal. It’s just a freakin’ meet is an approach meant to put you at ease. In your head. Where it counts. Why? Because no matter how hilarious he is in email, no matter how cute her smile in…