Clueless Guys Could Be The New Secret Sauce

Reasons To Give Clueless Guy a Chance We women are natural born detectives, putting together all kinds of  clues to figure out men’s behavior. Lucky for us, we have help. Girlfriends, coworkers, sons, daughters, and aunts. Even the gang at the gym will lend an opinion; in fact, several women in my zumba class are very interested in my love life.  And don’t discount that old bible of daters, He’s Just Not That Into You.…

How to Get Her to Email You Back

This is for the guys out there. And ladies, feel free to take a peek. So you'll know we guys aren't quite as tough as we'd like you to think. Rejection is our middle name. When it comes to any kind of dating, we're the ones taking the body blows. Imagine this: you're on the dating site, scrolling through all the lovelies. You see her. A great smile and let's face it, great legs. Who…

Sunny Blabs

I’m Sunny Chanel, the main character in Middle Ageish, Shirley’s novel. Fifty and dating. A lot. Did I have a choice? The woman invented me. She dated. She wrote. She stuck me in the novel. She even broke my heart. Lots of those meets in the novel were the real thing, but who can tell what’s true from truish? I’ve lost track myself. I’ll bet Shirley’s lost track too. She carried a little notebook to…

Quick! What Do You Notice First?

What do you notice in the first few seconds on a first meet? His comb over? Her weight? This unscientific survey is brought to you courtesy of my friends (names changed) and acquaintances, all middle ageish and dating online. They were all asked the same question and yes, the sex card was played. Or at least mentioned. What Women Notice in the First 5 Minutes We pick up on certain things. Such as you asking…

It’s Just a Freakin’ Meet

Yes, I’m using the word freakin’ in the headline. Not to come off flip. I’m not saying that dating for the first time in ten or twenty years is like popping a few blueberries into your morning oatmeal. It’s just a freakin’ meet is an approach meant to put you at ease. In your head. Where it counts. Why? Because no matter how hilarious he is in email, no matter how cute her smile in…