Dating After 50: Are you Making any of these 14 Online Dating Mistakes?

New to online dating? Don’t make these boo boos. And pull on your rhino suit because internet dating is not for the thin of skin. THE BASICS 1. You Don’t Realize Online Dating Is Tough  If you haven’t dated in twenty years, it’s good to know this. Don’t let it stop you. How is it tough? Anonymity often leads to bad behavior. I’d say that rudeness sometimes rules, but it isn’t that simple. I’ll give…

Over-50 Daters: 5 Things You Should Never Do When You’re Online Dating

Over-50 dating is…well, it’s different from dating when we were younger and met someone in person. IRL, in real life, is the acronym used nowadays. I’m offering up a few pointers to new daters and the date-weary. Online dating is not for the tender, but then neither is getting older. 1. Never take online dating personally and never give up looking The point is that if you take online dating personally, you’ll give up too…

Dating Questions for Sunny and Friends

Let's have a glass of wine and talk: Blow Torched?  I went out with a guy twice. He ended the last date by asking me if I thought we should take our profiles down. I’m thinking it’s a bit early, but I’m really attracted to him. Is this too good to be true? He’s touchy-feely in a nice, not creepy way, and I think there could be something here. He’s not rushing me sexually, by the…

5 Don’ts for Over-50 Online Daters and 4 Great Dos

Don't Get Overwhelmed by the Strangeness of it All  If you’re new to dating, you can get overwhelmed with anxiety about details, like what to wear, or fear that you won’t recognize your date in a crowded bar. "She'll see I'm fifteen pounds overweight," said a friend going on his first meet in two years. Other friends worry their date won't resemble his profile photo. "I lied about my height, but only by an inch,"…

6 Reasons Not to Resent Those Mediocre Dates

So, why should you bother reading about the not-so-hot times? Most meets are mediocre. Learn what isn’t. Internet dating is a numbers game. Meet two dozen men. Find one. If you’re lucky. Connecting isn’t easy. Your mediocre is someone else’s Honey. Internet dating is a marathon. This is training. You learn something from my mistakes. Every time. Nothing counts. Except The Meet. Nothing.

Hanging Out With Your Male Man: Friends With Testosterone

Are Male Friends Even Possible? We are a group of seven women of a certain age, sitting around the dinner table (yes, there is wine), talking about relationships. Since we don’t know one another that well, there are lots of questions. “What about men friends,” I ask. “It’s harder at our age, but do you have male pals?” Out of the seven, two have male acquaintances, but only one has a male friend. “I see…

7 Signs He’s Got IT Bad For You And 7 Signs He’s Bad For You

How do you know he's interested?  If a guy really likes you, he wants to be with you. Common sense. But what about in the beginning, before you know if what you have will turn into a relationship. How do you know a man is interested?  At our age, it’s not like you’ll see him in fourth period English. You’re not thrown together after school on the dance committee. Nowadays, we’re hyper aware of everyone’s…

Clueless Guys Could Be The New Secret Sauce

Reasons To Give Clueless Guy a Chance We women are natural born detectives, putting together all kinds of  clues to figure out men’s behavior. Lucky for us, we have help. Girlfriends, coworkers, sons, daughters, and aunts. Even the gang at the gym will lend an opinion; in fact, several women in my zumba class are very interested in my love life.  And don’t discount that old bible of daters, He’s Just Not That Into You.…

How to Get Her to Email You Back

This is for the guys out there. And ladies, feel free to take a peek. So you'll know we guys aren't quite as tough as we'd like you to think. Rejection is our middle name. When it comes to any kind of dating, we're the ones taking the body blows. Imagine this: you're on the dating site, scrolling through all the lovelies. You see her. A great smile and let's face it, great legs. Who…

Dating Blooper #1 The Spinach Profile

Your Profile Reads Like Spinach   Don’t get my metaphor? Well think of how bland a spinach salad tastes without a little dressing. Or how bleh cooked spinach is without a little oil and garlic.  That’s your profile if you haven’t added a little balsamic and oil and Dijon mustard.         Avoid These Profile Bloopers   Using lots of adjectives: Honest, Hardworking, Affectionate, Humorous, Attractive, Fun-loving. Trying to be sexy: “I love high…