Dating Questions for Sunny and Friends

Let's have a glass of wine and talk: Blow Torched?  I went out with a guy twice. He ended the last date by asking me if I thought we should take our profiles down. I’m thinking it’s a bit early, but I’m really attracted to him. Is this too good to be true? He’s touchy-feely in a nice, not creepy way, and I think there could be something here. He’s not rushing me sexually, by the…

6 Reasons Not to Resent Those Mediocre Dates

So, why should you bother reading about the not-so-hot times? Most meets are mediocre. Learn what isn’t. Internet dating is a numbers game. Meet two dozen men. Find one. If you’re lucky. Connecting isn’t easy. Your mediocre is someone else’s Honey. Internet dating is a marathon. This is training. You learn something from my mistakes. Every time. Nothing counts. Except The Meet. Nothing.

Dating Blooper #2 You’ve Landed in Email Land. Permanently

You could be nervous about a real connection. Gird your loins (I’ve always wanted to use that expression––Stanley Tucci said it in Shall We Dance?) and move to the phone. Don’t spend weeks writing back and forth, an endless string of emails. You might as well put your message in a bottle.   Ask for a number. Do it. (And yes, ladies, you can ask too.) Two reasons why: First. Giving out a number shows interest. Second. Phone…

Dating Questions for Sunny and Friends

Let's have a glass of wine and talk: No Movin'  No Shakin' Is anything happening here?  I don’t suppose a woman over fifty should be taking the old He’s Just Not That Into You book too seriously. Or maybe I should. I pulled it off my shelf last night. It’s easy reading and yuck! I saw myself and mistakes I’ve made in the past. Right there in those pages. So I started wondering how you can tell…

Dating Blooper #1 The Spinach Profile

Your Profile Reads Like Spinach   Don’t get my metaphor? Well think of how bland a spinach salad tastes without a little dressing. Or how bleh cooked spinach is without a little oil and garlic.  That’s your profile if you haven’t added a little balsamic and oil and Dijon mustard.         Avoid These Profile Bloopers   Using lots of adjectives: Honest, Hardworking, Affectionate, Humorous, Attractive, Fun-loving. Trying to be sexy: “I love high…

Sunny Blabs

I’m Sunny Chanel, the main character in Middle Ageish, Shirley’s novel. Fifty and dating. A lot. Did I have a choice? The woman invented me. She dated. She wrote. She stuck me in the novel. She even broke my heart. Lots of those meets in the novel were the real thing, but who can tell what’s true from truish? I’ve lost track myself. I’ll bet Shirley’s lost track too. She carried a little notebook to…