WHAT I’VE LEARNED FROM THE MEN IN MY LIFE (EVEN AFTER 50)

The reality of stepping out there after a long hiatus––whether you’re divorced or widowed––is anxiety-producing. But what I’ve learned about myself and about men couldn’t have been experienced otherwise. Who knows what you’ll glean from an hour or two (or forty-five minutes, in a few cases) over coffee, or a glass of wine, or dinner. And this is a good thing. Healthy and perhaps even a tad heart warming. And fun, too. Stuff I’ve Picked…

SUCCEED AT ONLINE DATING WITH THIS SIMPLE ATTITUDE TWEAK

Try On a Naturally Positive Attitude  I had another of those relationship discussions recently with a few single friends. What they have in common is all have plunged into online dating.  And everyone agrees that online dating is more painful than a dental scaling and root planing of all four quadrants of your mouth.  With one exception.  Miranda (not her real name), has no complaints about internet dating.  She dumped her boyfriend of two years,…

Online Dating Profile Tips and Bloopers

Dating Blooper #1 The Spinach Profile   Don’t get my metaphor? Well think of how bland a spinach salad tastes without a little dressing. Or how bleh cooked spinach is without a little oil and garlic.  That’s your profile if you haven’t added a little balsamic and oil and Dijon mustard.         To avoid the spinach-without-seasoning profile, talk about your quirks. Yes, your quirks. You love pineapple on your pizza and really comfortable,…

Dating After 50: Are you Making any of these 14 Online Dating Mistakes?

New to online dating? Don’t make these boo boos. And pull on your rhino suit because internet dating is not for the thin of skin. THE BASICS 1. You Don’t Realize Online Dating Is Tough  If you haven’t dated in twenty years, it’s good to know this. Don’t let it stop you. How is it tough? Anonymity often leads to bad behavior. I’d say that rudeness sometimes rules, but it isn’t that simple. I’ll give…

Over-50 Daters: 5 Things You Should Never Do When You’re Online Dating

Over-50 dating is…well, it’s different from dating when we were younger and met someone in person. IRL, in real life, is the acronym used nowadays. I’m offering up a few pointers to new daters and the date-weary. Online dating is not for the tender, but then neither is getting older. 1. Never take online dating personally and never give up looking The point is that if you take online dating personally, you’ll give up too…

Dating Questions for Sunny and Friends

Let's have a glass of wine and talk: Blow Torched?  I went out with a guy twice. He ended the last date by asking me if I thought we should take our profiles down. I’m thinking it’s a bit early, but I’m really attracted to him. Is this too good to be true? He’s touchy-feely in a nice, not creepy way, and I think there could be something here. He’s not rushing me sexually, by the…

5 Don’ts for Over-50 Online Daters and 4 Great Dos

Don't Get Overwhelmed by the Strangeness of it All  If you’re new to dating, you can get overwhelmed with anxiety about details, like what to wear, or fear that you won’t recognize your date in a crowded bar. "She'll see I'm fifteen pounds overweight," said a friend going on his first meet in two years. Other friends worry their date won't resemble his profile photo. "I lied about my height, but only by an inch,"…

6 Reasons Not to Resent Those Mediocre Dates

So, why should you bother reading about the not-so-hot times? Most meets are mediocre. Learn what isn’t. Internet dating is a numbers game. Meet two dozen men. Find one. If you’re lucky. Connecting isn’t easy. Your mediocre is someone else’s Honey. Internet dating is a marathon. This is training. You learn something from my mistakes. Every time. Nothing counts. Except The Meet. Nothing.